Quakers have a testimony to equality. That doesn't mean that they - that we - are very good at it. We're not entirely sure what it means.
In Britain, where Quakers don't have paid ministers (although they do have employees) there's a tendency to say that equality means not having a hierarchy. We sit in a square or a circle. In a Meeting for Worship anyone can stand to minister. Quaker roles - clerk, elder, treasurer etc. - aren't held for life but for three- or six-year periods and in theory anyone can take them.
It's not as easy as that. Quaker practices have been evolved through centuries and, over time, plenty of customs and unwritten rules have evolved. Quakers try to explain these to newcomers - we're not an unwelcoming lot. But we tend to forget how little newcomers know. We may explain about sitting in silence for long stretches of time - or even that, from time to time, people may stand up and "minister." We may even say encouragingly that "Anyone can minister" but is that really true? Quaker ministry tends to have a quite small range of acceptable tones and patterns. I'm not sure what would happen if a newcomer felt moved to harangue us for a long time in the style of, for example, George Fox. Or perhaps I do know what would happen. The newcomer would be eldered and gently, condescendingly, learn some of the unwritten rules of ministry. Friends would be relieved when the newcomer failed to return.
Perhaps it's fortunate that most newcomers don't feel moved to minister. They tend to wait until after Meeting to ask questions. Then they may or may not be aware of the social rules that apply - because social rules do exist, even if they're unwritten. For some that time after Meeting is a comfortable time - a chance to drink Fairtrade tea or coffee, to nibble organic biscuits and to feel that this is the sort of gathering in which they belong. But what about those who don't feel comfortable? They may have enjoyed the peace of Meeting for Worship and been moved by ministry. They may even have found that Meeting provided a deep and enriching spiritual experience. But now they have to navigate a social gathering which in Britain is mostly white and mostly middle-class. What if they feel out of place? What if that's the main obstacle that will hinder or halt their return?
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I’ve always felt uncomfortable at our pretence that we don't have unwritten conventions. Of course we do, as does every other institution. Nothing wrong with that but, unless we are prepared to acknowledge them, we can't discuss and perhaps right them.
ReplyDeleteI used to think it was wonderful that so many new people who had decided to stay with us said it was "like coming home". There is a flipside to that. Yes, comfort the afflicted but how about afflicting the comfortale? It would be more wonderful if the Meeting were more varied and diverse. A place where I really felt at one with everyone (except one police informer who was publicly identified) was at a meeting of the South African Liberal Party in 1962 where, despite apartheid, we were all united in knowing the police could arrive at any time and treat us as enemies of the state.